1. What actually happens in couples therapy?

Let’s clear this up: it’s not about blaming each other or rehashing fights. Couples therapy is about figuring out how to actually talk to each other—in ways that work. We’ll look at what’s going well, what’s falling apart, and what each of you needs in order to feel connected. Some sessions dig deep, others are more tactical. Either way, it’s real, honest, and designed to help you move forward.

2. Is couples therapy only for couples in crisis?

Nope. You don’t have to be on the edge of a breakup to get support. Therapy can help with the messy middle, too—stuff like navigating big decisions, reconnecting, or just getting out of the same-old-same-old communication loops. Think of it like a relationship tune-up, not an emergency room.

3. Will you take sides?

Short answer: no. Longer answer: I’m not here to play referee or gang up on anyone. I’m here for the relationship—and that means helping you both feel heard and supported. No one gets thrown under the bus. However, you should understand that therapy—at least with me—includes being challenged.

4. What if one of us doesn’t really want to come?

Totally normal. One of you might be more on board than the other, and that’s fine. You don’t have to be 100% sold to benefit from therapy. Just showing up is a solid first step.

5. How long does therapy usually last?

It depends. Some couples come in for a few sessions to sort through a specific issue. Others stick around longer for deeper work. We’ll check in as we go to make sure it’s still useful and aligned with your goals. We won’t drag things out unnecessarily.

6. Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples?

Absolutely. All couples and relationship structures are welcome. LGBTQ+, queer, poly, non-monogamous, trans, questioning, you name it. This is an affirming, judgment-free zone. You deserve care that respects your identity.

7. Can we do therapy even if we’re not sure we want to stay together?

Yes. Sometimes therapy is about repair and sometimes it’s about clarity. If you’re unsure whether to stay or go, we can explore that honestly, without pressure. The goal isn’t always to “save” the relationship—it’s to make intentional, respectful choices that align with your truth.

8. What if we fight during the session?

I fully expect this to happen. And honestly, it can be useful. If conflict shows up, we’ll work with it—not try to shut it down. Therapy is a space to practice better ways of handling tension, even in real time.

9. Can we see you individually too?

I usually meet with each of you once early on to get a fuller picture, but after that, sessions are joint. If it seems like individual work would be helpful, I’ll refer you to someone solid.

10. Is everything we say confidential?

Yes, with a few legal exceptions (like if someone’s in danger). Otherwise, what’s said in the therapy room stays in the therapy room. I take your privacy seriously.

11. How much does it cost, and do you take insurance?

I’m out-of-network, which means I don’t bill insurance directly. But many plans offer partial reimbursement. I can give you a superbill (fancy receipt) to submit to your provider. Depending on your plan, therapy might be more affordable than you think—especially if you’ve hit your deductible.

12. Do you offer virtual sessions?

Yep. Online sessions are available and just as effective for most couples. Great option if you’ve got a hectic schedule, live in different places, can’t find childcare, or just want to do therapy in sweats on your couch.

13. What if we’ve already tried therapy and it didn’t work?

That’s more common than you think. Just because things didn’t click with one therapist doesn’t mean therapy’s a dead end. Every therapist brings a different approach. We’ll talk about what didn’t work last time and try something different.

14. How do we get started?

Easy. Just shoot me a message. No pressure, no sales pitch, just a quick chat to see if we vibe. If it feels right, we’ll get your first session on the books.