your questions, answered

Let’s clear this up: it’s not about blaming each other or rehashing fights. Couples therapy is about figuring out how to actually talk to each other—in ways that work. We’ll look at what’s going well, what’s falling apart, and what each of you needs in order to feel connected. Some sessions dig deep, others are more tactical. Either way, it’s real, honest, and designed to help you move forward.

Nope. You don’t have to be on the edge of a breakup to get support. Therapy can help with the messy middle, too—stuff like navigating big decisions, reconnecting, or just getting out of the same-old-same-old communication loops. Think of it like a relationship tune-up, not an emergency room.

Short answer: no. Longer answer: I’m not here to play referee or gang up on anyone. I’m here for the relationship—and that means helping you both feel heard and supported. No one gets thrown under the bus. However, you should understand that therapy—at least with me—includes being challenged.

Totally normal. One of you might be more on board than the other, and that’s fine. You don’t have to be 100% sold to benefit from therapy. Just showing up is a solid first step.

It depends. Some couples come in for a few sessions to sort through a specific issue. Others stick around longer for deeper work. We’ll check in as we go to make sure it’s still useful and aligned with your goals. We won’t drag things out unnecessarily.

Absolutely. All couples and relationship structures are welcome. LGBTQ+, queer, poly, non-monogamous, trans, questioning, you name it. This is an affirming, judgment-free zone. You deserve care that respects your identity.

Yes. Sometimes therapy is about repair and sometimes it’s about clarity. If you’re unsure whether to stay or go, we can explore that honestly, without pressure. The goal isn’t always to “save” the relationship—it’s to make intentional, respectful choices that align with your truth.

I fully expect this to happen. And honestly, it can be useful. If conflict shows up, we’ll work with it—not try to shut it down. Therapy is a space to practice better ways of handling tension, even in real time.

I usually meet with each of you once early on to get a fuller picture, but after that, sessions are joint. If it seems like individual work would be helpful, I’ll refer you to someone solid.

Yes, with a few legal exceptions (like if someone’s in danger). Otherwise, what’s said in the therapy room stays in the therapy room. I take your privacy seriously.

We can work together if both of you are in one of the states in which I’m licensed. I hold licenses in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, and Connecticut, so as long as you are in one of those states at the time of each session, we’re good to go. (This goes for vacations and work trips, too; if you are outside of one of these states, the session needs to be rescheduled.)

I do not, and here’s why: When insurance isn’t involved, therapy doesn’t have to fit into a narrow box. That flexibility lets me be more present, more responsive, and more attuned to what you and your partner truly need. I can give you a superbill (fancy receipt) to submit to your provider to put toward any out of network benefits your plan may offer. Therapy might be more affordable than you think—especially if you’ve hit your deductible. You can use this complimentary benefits calculator to determine your benefits

Yep. In-person sessions are in Montclair, NJ. Online sessions are available and just as effective for most couples. Great option if you’ve got a hectic schedule, live in different places, can’t find childcare, or just want to do therapy in sweats on your couch.

That’s more common than you think. Just because things didn’t click with one therapist doesn’t mean therapy’s a dead end. Every therapist brings a different approach. We’ll talk about what didn’t work last time and try something different.

Easy. Just shoot me a message using the form below. No pressure, no sales pitch, just a quick chat to see if we vibe. If it feels right, we’ll get your first session on the books.